The holidays are a time for togetherness and joy. But for individuals living with dementia and their families, it can also come with unique challenges. Managing the expectations of family gatherings, maintaining routines, and navigating emotional or behavioral changes require thoughtful planning. Here are strategies curated by the Isaac Health team on how to make the holidays more enjoyable and less stressful for you and your family.
1. Keep expectations realistic
For many, the holidays may come with high expectations of long gatherings and boisterous celebrations – but these can overwhelm people living with dementia. Try to simplify your plans by focusing on activities that bring joy and connection, without the unnecessary stress. For example, consider hosting smaller gatherings or spreading visits across several days to avoid fatigue.
2. Plan around existing routines
Sticking to routines is important, as it helps reduce confusion and anxiety for people living with dementia. When planning holiday activities, try to work around what a typical schedule looks like. For example, if you or your loved one feels more alert in the morning, schedule visits or events during that time. Avoid disrupting regular meals, medication, or rest times.
3. Prepare your family and/or guests
Family and friends may not fully understand cognitive impairment or how it can impact one’s behavior. Before gatherings, communicate with guests about what to expect, including any changes in behavior, memory, or abilities. Encourage them to focus on positive interactions and avoid correcting or questioning the person’s memory lapses. Share simple conversation tips, such as speaking slowly and maintaining eye contact.
4. Create a comfortable environment
Decorations like blinking lights or loud music can be overstimulating. Instead, opt for calming and familiar decor. Ensure pathways are clear to avoid falls, and designate a quiet space where you or your loved one can retreat if the gathering becomes overwhelming.
5. Adapt holiday activities
Finding ways to include people living with dementia in holiday traditions can help create a sense of belonging and purpose. Adapt activities to suit different abilities: they might help stir cookie dough, hang simple ornaments, or sing along to holiday music.
6. Watch for signs of overstimulation
Pay attention to signs of fatigue, confusion, or agitation. If you or your loved one start to feel overwhelmed, consider taking a break or leaving the event early. Come up with a plan in advance, such as stepping into a quiet room or taking part in a calming activity.
7. Prioritize self-care
The holidays can be demanding for everyone. Remember to prioritize your well-being! Whether that means delegating tasks or making time for your own relaxation, make sure to take care of yourself while finding those moments of joy. After all, the holidays are about connection, not perfection.
We wish you all a holiday season filled with warmth and love!
Important Holiday Resources
Please note that Isaac Health will be closed from December 24 through January 1. During this time, if you need immediate support or guidance, our 24/7 hotline (1-888-818-2059) is available to provide assistance.
